Relationships and Such

I know it has been some time since I have posted. That stops today. 


Lately, I have been thinking about relationships, marriages, etc. Years ago, it was unheard of a woman having a baby outside of wedlock. Some women were even married at the age of 16. It was also unheard of to become divorced. Marriage was held to the highest power. The institution itself was something that meant everything. Fast forward to 2012 and a slumping economy, and marriage has taken a back seat. The divorce rate is higher than ever, and not only that, some relationships are just that, relationships. Marriage need not apply.

I bring all of this up because I am one of these people. No, I did not marry at 16, but I had a couple of aunts that did ( that is a whole 'nother post). No, I am not divorced, because I have never been married. Yes, I am in a long term relationship and have been for some time.

......waiting for it...the question....the question I get all of the time...


(sigh..) I started this bullshit, so I must speak on it.. I have been with the same person for over 10 years. We have a child together. I even wear a ring on my left hand that signifies that I am engaged. Why am I not married? Well, that is a very good question, and I am hoping through this blog and life and waking up every morning that I figure it out.

We love each other very much. We have a good relationship. We both adore our child. He is ready to marry me. Has been for some time. I, on the other hand, have always been the believer of  "if it ain't broke, don't fix it". But that old adage is just that, old. My child is getting older and wiser, and sooner or later, questions will be asked.

If  I had to be real and tell what I really think about marriage, it would go a little something like this: My parents never married. They were/are friendly towards one another, and they were committed in raising me. And let me just say, I am glad it worked out this way. As I have gotten older, and take long looks at my moms personality  versus  my dad....well, lets just say I question how I even came about. I love them both dearly, but married..I am sorry, it would not have worked.

I have never really seen a good example of marriage in my family. Sure, I have aunts that are married. I have cousins that are married. But, having something like that up close and personal is something that I have never had.

I also wonder if "the paper" ( meaning the marriage license) is all that it is cracked up to be. Do you have to be legally married to be considered happily ever after? I mean, is it a must? Note: I am in no way mocking anyone that is married. I commend you actually, but I am trying to work this out in my head.

I am curious to know what others think about marriage, relationships and what not.

Please note that these are my thoughts and my opinions. I do like to consider myself an expert on things, but this is not one of them. I have offended someone...well, that's just to damn bad!